Don’t Put Your Faith In A Person, Put Your Faith In God
My parents are amazing and have guided me through many ups and downs in my life. I’ve become a very guarded person because of past relationships and encounters among people who claim to be something they are not. My mom often reminds me to be soft and kind.
From the time I was little my parents engrained in me, “Do not put your faith in a person, put your faith in God”. I didn’t fully grasp this until I lost the so- called Godly people I put my faith in.
When I was 16, my eyes were opened to the hypocritical side of religion and the church. After a terrible youth group experience and seeing my fair share of church splits, I began attending Sunday morning services because that is what I had to do. We went to church as a family, but I didn’t really care either way about God and a relationship with Him.
I’ve been living with a semi bad attitude about Christianity. I can’t say that I quit believing in God, but I never fully trusted in God or desired to have a deep meaningful relationship with Him. I was absolutely content living my life on the outskirts of religion and never really talked about having faith.
What Happens When Your Religious Foundation Is Rocked?
5 years ago, some of the people that modeled God for me, turned out to be the exact image of what I believed Christians were when I was 16. Hypocrites, prideful and unloving. My family went through a major split and my parents are the only loving spiritual influences I have left from my childhood.
Why would I want to serve a God that hates? Why would I want to be like those christians who openly admitted gossiping and hurting us on purpose?
I actually DIDN’T want to associate with people like that at all.
My foundation for Christianity was totally rocked because my faith wasn’t in God, it was in people.
It took me a few years to deal with the loss and the hurt of losing people I trusted. I remember telling my husband that I didn’t want to associate with Christians because time and time again, this unkindness is what I think of when people tell me they are Christians. I told him that while I still believed in God, I didn’t think church was for me.
Finding My Own Truth
A few weeks ago at church, our pastor said, “Church isn’t hypocritical, people are hypocritical.”
I honestly just sat there with my mouth open. I know people aren’t perfect and I know that church isn’t perfect. My parents words came flooding back to me, “Don’t put your faith in people”.
Why is it that when we are hurt by Christians or Churches, we begin to question God and our own faith?
If we get offended by the waitress at a restaurant, we don’t quit going to all restaurants and question our love for food.
We have been putting too much pressure on the people in our lives to be perfect.
Unfortunately, people aren’t perfect and people hurt us. We need to stop putting pastors, religious leaders, and our mentors on a spiritual pedestal. No human is worthy of that spot!
Our Spiritual Relationships Can’t Be Dependent On Others
(Repeat the about heading a few times! I really need that to sink in.)
When you are raised in a Christian home, you run the risk of becoming the, “I’m a christian because I was raised that way” type of Christian.
I was angry at church and angry at the people I trusted to teach me about God. Instead of trusting that God had a plan in all of the hurt and pain, I just pushed God to the side and moved on with no real deep faith to cling to.
If I want a relationship with God, I am going to have to have my own relationship with God. This was my 2017 revelation.
I’ve been spending the last year reading, learning, watching and researching what God is really all about. What I believed about God when I was younger, is no longer what I am discovering about God in my own personal life.
The God I choose to follow is kind and loving. The God I am learning to love, doesn’t hold hell over my head and threaten to drop me in if I use inappropriate language (Lord Thank YOU! I love Jesus, but I cuss a little! or a lot.)
Sometimes getting your foundation bulldozed out from under you is the best blessing you can ask for.
If I hadn’t questioned my faith and my understanding of what Christians are really like, I wouldn’t have needed to search for answers. I wouldn’t listen intently when someone is speaking about God and who they believe He is.
Last Sunday, I heard a message that again, spoke directly to my searching mind. My biggest take away from this message was, “Believing in God isn’t the same as Trusting in God.”
What Have I Taken Away From My Year Of Searching?
- God wants us to be happy, love others and live a life that is glorifying to Him.
- We cannot live life doing the same thing over and over again and expect to learn, grow and become a better person.
- If we aren’t learning who God is for ourselves, we are not developing a deep rooted relationship with Him.
- Sitting in church on Sunday isn’t enough for me. I have to take notes, research the stories and examples for myself. Then I have to be intentional about applying what I’ve learned to my own life.
- Having a group of people that you can talk to about real thoughts and opinions is more important than I ever realized. I don’t believe you have to go to church to be a Christian, I do believe you need people that you can learn from and grow with on your journey.
- Don’t put faith in people, put faith in God.
- Quit taking peoples word for things and start deciding what you really believe and why you believe it.
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A few years ago, our pastor told this story about the Pixar creator, Ed Catmull, being 2 inches from dying in a car accident as a child. Had that had happened, there would be no Pixar. The people that met through Pixar would’ve never met, would have never had their children, would never have the lives they live today.
How many times have we been 2 inches away from a drastic life-changing scenario, and we didn’t even realize it?
How many of the ordinary things that we do every day are actually a compilation of events that have the potential to change our lives?
6 years ago, I had just completed another yo-yo diet. I was successful on the diet, but it was expensive and it wasn’t something I could maintain forever. So I did what I normally do after a diet, I binge eat all the junk I want and then feel gross and sorry for myself.
My 2 Inch Moment
My 2-inch moment was a decision that I almost didn’t make. My 2-inch moment would have been the difference between living a life that I love, and living a life that I was just getting through.
Brandon came home one day and told me about this new diet that our friends wouldn’t shut up about. I initially told him, no way. I had already made my decision and it wasn’t going to happen.
What if he hadn’t convinced me to do this with him? What if I hadn’t taken a few minutes to research Paleo? What if I hadn’t stumbled upon Mark’s Daily Apple the next day at work?
If You Are Afraid To Go, Go Together
In the message our pastor shared, he related it to God knowing us better than we know ourselves. He said that God brings people into our lives to help us go through situations that we are afraid to go through alone.
In the time leading up to our lifestyle change, I felt like I was backed into a corner that only God could get me out. My depression, anxiety, and fear were at an all-time high. (Typical for me when I am in and out of strict diets) Brandon was dealing with some similar issues and we were both on the verge of requiring medication and guidance.
God Puts People In Our Lives When We Can’t Make It Alone.
I couldn’t do this change alone, but together, we were able to stick with it. That is what Brandon and I always say about our new journey. If I weren’t here cooking for him, he would have quit. If he hadn’t convinced me to start, we wouldn’t be where we are today.
Don’t Let Fear Hold You Back
Looking back at photos and re-watching the “2 Inch Moments” message, it forced me to reflect on how many things almost kept me from making a decision that drastically changed my life.
I wonder how many times I was too afraid to take a risk.
How many moments did I miss because I didn’t have a community or a partner to say, we can do it together.
People aren’t meant to be alone in life and while I often need alone time, I can’t do life alone.
This year has been my year of reflection and my year of taking risks. I could write tons of posts on the changes I’ve seen this year, but I won’t (for now).
I will share that the moments that stand out the most, all link back to community and support. I took a huge risk to make changes to my career and my faith over the last 3 years.
None of these would have happened if I hadn’t made a decision to change my lifestyle 6 years ago. The things I love about my lifestyle today, wouldn’t exist if I didn’t say Yes to my husband begging me to go Paleo 6 years ago.
Taking time to reflect on my life in celebration of our 6 years Paleo-versary has helped me see a bigger picture. My lifestyle isn’t just about the food I eat, it’s about the people I hang out with and the things I have learned along the way. There is so much more in store and I am excited to see what moments happen next.
Pay Attention To Your Moments
What if today we start living life the way we want and finding people in our community who support us, encourage us and help us to create a life we love?
Don’t let fear keep you from making a 2-inch moment that could change your life in ways that you wouldn’t believe in 1, 6 or 20 years from now.
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As soon as we wake up, we tell ourselves, today I am going to do better (as if yesterday you failed).
We walk to the bathroom and glance at ourselves in the mirror. We immediately begin tearing ourselves apart. I have a blemish, gross, I’m such a wreck! Is it possible to gain 10 lbs. over night? I don’t think I was this fat yesterday. A gray hair? Oh my gosh, I’m just done! I’m not even worth it.
We get dressed, head downstairs, crank the coffee into our veins and continue our day of finding flaws in ourself.
Our Words Have Power
What we speak into our lives and into the lives of others holds value. When we constantly tear ourselves down, we begin to feel down and bad about ourselves. Words can put us in a very dark place if we don’t watch what we say.
We need to be our biggest cheerleader and begin speaking positivity into our lives. Our words should build us up, speak life and encourage. Check out these 9 things we can say to ourselves everyday to begin reaching our goals and creating a positive lifestyle.
9 Things To Tell Yourself Everyday:
- Every Day is a Fresh Start: If you didn’t like yesterday, try to make today better. We are lucky to wake up every day and get the chance to start fresh.
- People make mistakes, it’s what they do to correct their mistakes that matters: Go easy on yourself. We all make mistakes and you can either pity yourself or learn from the mistake. Mistakes help us improve!
- People who speak negatively about me, don’t really know my heart: Don’t give negative people power over your life. If someone is judging you from behind a computer screen or from a distance, that’s on them. You can’t let someone who doesn’t know the real you, bring negativity into your life.
- I can achieve my goals, but I have to work hard: Accomplishing your dream isn’t easy. You have to work hard and put energy into it, but you can achieve it if you try.
- I am loved: Stop picking out your flaws and start loving yourself. Look in the mirror and say it proud! God loves you and you should love you too!
- I am important: You weren’t put on earth randomly. Each and every one of us has a purpose in life. God’s plans for you are important and you are here intentionally.
- I can choose Happiness: We will have bad days and dark moments. We can choose happiness in situations. Take time to count your blessings and reflect on how far you’ve come in life.
- My past doesn’t control me, I can start over at any time: Everyone has a history, some more wild than others, but no one is perfect. What we did when we were young and dumb doesn’t have to be who we are today! Yes our past is important, but it doesn’t mean we can’t move on and be better now. We have this amazing ability to learn, grow and improve our lives.
- This is the only life I get, let’s make it epic: Don’t give up on yourself and quit. Stop letting your negative thoughts stop you in your tracks. This is your life and you get to control how you impact the world.
Build yourself up and speak positivity into your life. You deserve to be happy and feel amazing!
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